Huzur gave a discourse on the Islamic teachings on marital rights and obligations with reference to the Divine attribute Al Wasi (The Benevolent, the All-Embracing).

Huzur said today he would cite various subjects that relate to our daily life as well as to our moral and spiritual state. By virtue of His All-Embracing knowledge God is aware of our each action and by mentioning these subjects He has guided us so that we may, in accordance to our individual capacity, make endeavours to attain beneficence and seek His pleasure. The aspects that guide us range from marital matters to societal issues to reformation of our religious ways, to adapting our moral and spiritual condition in accordance with the pleasure of God. He has also commanded man to adopt His attributes on a human level and has thus enjoined to espouse the attribute of Al Wasi to expand and enhance one’s spiritual state to attain God’s pleasure. He has also informed us that He is indeed well aware of our capacity and therefore whatever He has assigned us is not beyond our capacity. Indeed capacity varies from person to person and His commandment is also in accordance to this, however, it is not for man to determine the limits of one’s capacity; this God alone knows. Therefore it cannot be said about His commandments that they are beyond one’s capacity. He has granted hidden capacity to everyone and it is man’s task to bring it out and develop that capacity.

God also gave us the perfect model of the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) and enjoined us to tread in his footsteps. He was indeed the only perfect man who had tremendous capacities. Reflecting on any aspect of his blessed model one observes exceedingly great standards. We are enjoined to aspire to follow his blessed model. This perfect and blessed model also encompasses marital issues and we observe the supremely excellent standards that he set in this regard. He once said, ‘The best of you, is the one who is best to his wives, and I am the best of you toward my wives.’  He also said if there is any quality a husband dislikes in his wife he should be mindful of another that he likes and thus generate an environment of harmony. Huzur said this commandment is applicable to both men and women. The blessed wives of the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) were witness to the fact that his deportment with them was most excellent in all aspects of daily life.  Yet he would pray to God that indeed He was aware that as far as human limitations allowed he was just and fair with all his blessed wives. However, he had no control over his heart, and if his heart was inclined to one of them more than the others due to a particular quality, he sought God’s forgiveness.  Explaining to Hadhrat Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) the qualities of Hadhrat Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her), he said that she had become his companion when he was all alone and helpless. She gave him all her wealth and bore him children. When the world rejected him, she validated him. Despite the presence of living and young wives, indeed the presence of his beloved wife, who was the beloved because he had received most of his Divine revelations whilst in her apartment and who wondered why the Prophet often remembered the elderly Khadija, he responded by lovingly telling them not be narrow-minded, to inculcate fortitude and explained the reasons why he reminisced about his early wife.  

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